So I know what you’re thinking, duh, of course disagreements are going to happen. But honestly ask yourself: Do I truly understand where my friend is coming from?
As fallible humans, we tend to listen to respond rather than understand. We try to prove why our point of view is correct, instead of trying to understand why their point of view is different.
When it comes to disagreements, no one is right or wrong. Somewhere along the road, we were conditioned to think that if our friends don’t agree with us on everything then they’re not truly our friends. And I’m here to tell you, stop with that BS mindset.
In my previous article, I did say that when it came to basic morals and human decency, you have every right to end a friendship. Why you may ask? Well sweetie if you have to ask that question, then check your entitlement at the door and realize that everyone deserves the same amount of respect and rights.
Interestingly enough, differences in morals and basic humanity may not bother some individuals (and I’m side eyeing them low key). However, there are some aspects to morality that can be the cause of good discussion. Like a person’s thoughts on universal health benefits or raising the minimum wage.
When it comes to disagreements, you have to open yourself up to hear both sides. You may feel as though your opinion is more valid, but take your stance out of it and put yourself in the other person’s shoes. We all come from different backgrounds, households, and environments. We’ve all had different life experiences that can diverge our mindsets. So as friends, you are still two individuals coming together to understand one another. Friendship is still a form of “relationship” where you must grow and learn each other.
Sometimes we get so caught up in trying to be right that we don’t bother to understand the other side. It’s like having tunnel vision; you only see one way and nothing else. This only limits your our learning. We all want to be heard, but you have to truly listen then come to an understanding.
True understanding is when we can acknowledge another person’s thoughts, see where they are coming from, and why they think the way that they do. It is not our jobs to force someone to change their mind and think the same as we do. When you are presented with a viewpoint other than your own, you must expand your thinking. Disagreements in friendships are healthy. We have the privilege to learn something new every single day, and we just have to be open to receiving it. Your friend disagreeing with you is not an attack, but just a difference of opinion based on their own experiences.